I have been brainstorming ways to put my passion for travel, teaching, and planning in motion to create a sustainable business. I went from co-owning and teaching at Wine & Design Charlotte to becoming a certified day sailing captain and certified PADI Scuba Diving Instructor…
BUT when I heard about Nadine Donovan-Agiesta’s Hair Bootcamp coming to CLT I jumped at the chance to get pretty with the ladies of Volume Salon. Nadine is so fun and my #1 hairstylist “Emilio” killed it today.
We laughed, we made my hair stand straight up and we ate some pizza. Ok a lot of pizza. Seriously why is it so hard to say no to pizza?!
Emily even got a fancy certificate after a long day of hard work. Check out all of the styles we tried. I can’t wait to see if I can re-create a few, with less detail of course, for my day to day style. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the deconstructed braids. So fun!
As my longtime love George Strait said, just give it awayyyy…your extra stuff that is. At least 2 or 3 times a year I take everything, I mean EVERYTHING, out of my closets and drawers and do a major cleaning. If I didn’t I would still have those size zero soffe shorts I could only wear when I was in high school. You GSHS cheerleaders know what I’m talking about! Well for me the days of wearing a size zero anything and soffe shorts are long gone. Which means clothes I haven’t worn in forever have to be long gone too.
I usually start from the bottom, like Drake, because Drake is a bada**. Maybe he will help me brush up my rapping skills one day? #dreams You are probably asking yourself “did this girl just mention George Strait & Drake in the same blog?” Oh yes I did, you can’t be from Garner and not like country AND rap, it is just not ok. We like to be well rounded in the 919.
Anyway, back to the bottom of the closet. I have tons of shoes, way too many shoes, so I usually start there. If I haven’t worn them since the last time I did a major clean out, they are most likely to go. Next, I move on to my clothes and the same goes for them, minus a few ridiculous 80′s prom dresses or items that I simply can’t let go of…yet. In the past 2 years I have given away at least 10 HUGE boxes of shoes and clothes to some friends, family and to various local organizations that collect used clothing items for people in need. Sometimes stuff you are just not feeling anymore can become the new go to staple in someone else’s closet.
Speaking of organizations that help people in need, 2 of my BBF’s in CLT started The Changing Room last year. The Changing Room coordinates free pop up shops a few times a year to help those in need find clothes, toys, blankets and more. How cool is that? Organizations like this and the many others all over the world change lives. I love being a part of that. You never know how much an old pair of shoes or a t-shirt that has been sitting in your drawer for 2 years can mean to someone who may not be able to afford them, for whatever reason. The Changing Room actually has a Holiday pop up event coming up on December 12th!
How fabulous is this picture from a previous pop up shop? The kids shirt says it all…just do it! Kudos to Nike for coming up with a phrase that has been around and I am sure will be around for years to come BTW. But seriously, I know how hard parting with stuff can be and I have most definitely had closet clean out remorse, if there is such a thing. What if I lose those extra lbs? What if it comes back in style in a few years? What if I get a new job and need this again?
I have found that the more stuff I give away the less crowded my space and my mind is. Cleaning out my closets is one of the best forms of therapy, right up there with cleaning the house or having wine & sushi night with the ladies. How amazing do you feel once your environment is clean and de-cluttered? It is a game changer for me 100%. My focus level goes through the roof!
Besides donating, doing a super clean can also help me find things that get misplaced. I had been looking for my favorite pink tape measure for months, it was a situation I tell ya! The last time I sorted through all of my old purses guess what showed up? Good ole pinky! It had been in a purse in the top of my closet the entire time. I also find it keeps me from wanting to shop as much because I find things I forgot I even bought…isn’t that terrible!? But I do love a good shopping trip every once in a while, especially when the seasons change. Girls gotta look fresh. You know what I’m sayinnnn?
If you don’t want to just give away all of your stuff you can definitely sell it for some extra cash. Maybe for a fun trip? You know that’s what I would use it on 🙂 There are so many apps, online and in-store options these days or you can save up for a good old fashioned yard sale. Just saying that takes me back to the days when I used to sell shells and Coca-Cola on the side of the road at my parents beach house with my best friend. We killed it, and kept the proceeds even though our parents bought the drinks for more than we sold them for. At least we got some sales experience right? Gotta keep those resumes looking right.
If you are looking for a few good options for selling this blogger has some cool ideas: http://www.brit.co/sell-clothes-online/. I know so many friends who are super good at this. I think it takes a lot of patience and a little extra time to go this route. I honestly wish I was better at it, maybe some day. No matter what, de-cluttering and de-stuff-ing will make you feel like a brand new woman, or man. Trust me, try it. And be prepared to be amazed.
I challenge everyone that reads this blog to give away one box of clothes, shoes or whatever, doesn’t matter what size, to someone in need during this Holiday season. There are kids who won’t get any presents, parents who can’t afford to buy socks to keep their feet warm, and people looking for jobs that could use that old suit you haven’t worn since you left your corporate job at the bank. Just give it away 🙂
Look at me, having a blast at the playground back in my young and innocent days. That slide would so be outlawed today, it is just not safe for the kids…HA! If you look closely, sorry the photo is old and fuzzy because there were no iPhone 6s’s back in the 80′s, you can see a mixture of cute kid with a hint of mischief. I think we all have a little mischief or what I like to call crazy in us, the world would be so boring without it, right? Again, everything in moderation.
When I look at that picture I can see my adventurous spirit (I’ve always been somewhat of a dare devil) and also a little girl who will soon be a wild & crazy pre-teen/teenager up to no good. Luckily, I have grown out of what my parents called my Linda Blair stage, it was touch and go there for a few years. Ok so I wasn’t possessed by any demons but I am pretty sure my parents wanted to have me exorcized a time or 10.
I never went to jail or anything like that but starting around age 12 I was trouble. I snuck in after curfew, ran away from home, drank underage and went places I was forbidden to go to just to name a few. I like to think it was all part of finding myself…live and learn.
Oh and I was always right, a major know it all. My parents were totally nuts and had no idea what they were talking about…ever. I can barely type that without laughing out loud. At some point a light bulb finally went off and I realized, wow they were not total idiots at all. Yes family, it is now in writing AND on the internet, you were right and I was wrong. I DO NOT like being wrong, this runs in the family.
Speaking of family, lets pretend we are looking at a piece of chart paper or a smart board, whatever is in these days, and lay out my family trees. What’s behind tree number 1 you ask? Well Bob (I miss Bob Barker, the Price is Right has never been the same since he left) we have Barbs and her biological parents. This is what I call the only child tree.
Tree number 2, blended family number one or what I like to call the youngest child tree. This is when my mom re-married and I became the youngest of 4 kids.
Then there is tree number 3, my current tree, the oldest child tree. This is when my dad re-married, my mom re-married, and I became the oldest of 4 kids. Insert a few hamsters, hermit crabs, guinea pigs, turtles, cats & dogs along the way and we have quite the sketch. Are you confused yet? See why we needed to diagram this?
Most people are either totally confused, sympathetic or amazed by my family dynamics. No sympathy please…you may need to sit down for this…but we all, and I mean all of us, get along. Insanity right? I feel lucky that I have had such an interesting blended family forest that started growing at a young age. We are pretty much the Brady Bunch on crack. I would look so cool as a hippie right? And bell bottoms are in for Fall…groovy!
I am not sure how I actually feel about bell bottoms or how they would look on me now butttttt I was looking fabulous in my D.A.R.E. shirt circa 5th grade. I thought I was so cool with my braces and baggy jeans…NERD ALERT! I was somewhat of an athlete and a tomboy for a few years and used to be quite the little gymnastics star. My shoulders and knees hate me now for all of the flipping and swinging I put them through but I at least had a lot of bling to show for it.
I should give one of those medals to each parent, grandparent or family member that I nearly gave a heart attack during my crazy years. DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA…trust me. I still have a little bit of a non-traditional/risky streak so I should probably try to win a few more medals to hand out to them now. What am I thinking? My back would probably break at the sight of a balance beam or uneven bars these days. Where’s the BENGAY? I bet I could get a case on Amazon delivered by tomorrow…Amazon Prime is better than pizza. Yes I said it!
Even though I started as the only child, became then youngest child and am now the oldest child, I like to think I turned out ok. I actually think I got the best of most worlds, and I hear being the middle child can be tough…Marsha! Marsha! Marsha! Sorry I couldn’t resist, the Brady Bunch was the jam back in the day!
Being the mobile child, for lack of a better phrase, is pretty freaking awesome. It has taught me how to be independent, resilient, and how to build a solid foundation for myself and my future, whatever that may be.
As of today I am officially done with my obligations at Wine & Design Charlotte…tears. So what’s next you ask? My answer has mostly been I’m really not sure, but I am excited to figure it out. Am I crazy for not knowing yet? I think not!
Some people say to get a 8-5 job right away, get back on the corporate horse you rode for 5 years before starting a business. Save, save save. I am not sure I am quite ready for that rodeo, but it is an option. I mean I did get a Master’s Degree for a reason right?
Some people say stay home, have babies, be domestic. Are you crazy people?! I can barely sit on the couch for 10 minutes without thinking of some type of project I need to do. I would crash and burn with a quickness. Kudos to all you stay at home moms out there, you are true rockstars. For real!
Some people say invest in another business. Definitely a possibility, if the right opportunity comes along. It has to be something I’m passionate about, a good fit for me.
Others say to just chill, travel, reflect and think carefully before making a decision. Embrace the crazy, do something different, you will land on your feet. And that folks is where I am right now. I am on the I’ll figure it out in the right time train and I am looking forward to the ride. And if you know me, you know I’ll always have a plan.
So, if all goes as planned I’ll be sliding into what’s next feet first with the same adventurous look in my eye as when I was a mini me rocking my ice cream cone overalls on the playground back in 1987. Who’s ready to hit the playground? I bet you can’t beat me across the monkey bars!